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INVESTMENT: $1100 per month.*
Participating in this concierge program is perhaps the best way you can validate the painful impact of your partner’s betrayal. Investing in your healing, recovery, and growth right now is paramount to moving past the trauma and triggers and moving into triumph and transformation!
I invite you to take a breath and gently uncover whatever questions, emotions, temptations, and needs surface for you at any given time. We’ll talk more about you, less about him, because you didn’t create the problem, but you are the one that has to figure out how to “deal and heal” well.
The impact of infidelity shows up everywhere.
You’ve become someone you don’t recognize. You are investigating, spinning “what if’s” and “probably’s,” and are hyper-focused on his behavior— the who, where, why, what and when of his past, present, and future.
Who to tell? Should I ask for a divorce or separate or just hope the behavior stops? What about the kids? What do all these new words even mean? D-day, Boundaries, Safety Agreement, Disclosure, Partner Betrayal Trauma, and Self-care—it’s a lot…and it is a huge learning curve.
I offer this program for partners after interviewing the couple for commitment to the whole process. It is time consuming and very comprehensive. It will require between- session homework, intentional self+soul care, and a willingness to trust your individual coach/therapist (follow directions and pace ◡̈ ).
With the monthly coaching subscription, you will have the flexibility to schedule sessions in half hour increments, so whether you need to vent after a trigger and get grounded in 30 minutes, or need a major breakthrough double session of two hours, we ‘ll make it happen. (In person meetings are a minimum of one hour).
The subscription package includes**
7-9 hours of individual coaching per month
Real-time access to me via text, email with a promise of a response within a few hours, and S.O.S phone calls for urgent matters. This component of the package is what sets my service apart from others. It’s Concierge attention and time. When you don’t understand and need to talk it out, are on the proverbial “ledge” of despair, or you’re wanting to rage, run, or give up—I’m here to listen and to guide you back to emotional regulation, objective reasoning, and value-based decision-making. The between-session time can be difficult to navigate alone, now you don’t have to.
Discounted rates on future workshops/webinars.
Lifeline support group membership while subscribed to Concierge Coaching.
Add on the Therapeutic Full Disclosure at a heavily discounted rate.
Coaching is one way you can invest in the care of your mind, body, soul, and spirit after betrayal, and as someone who has walked this road before, I can attest that having a non-negotiable appointment once or twice a week was often the only thing that kept me moving forward because depression and isolation were begging to creep in.
Don’t give up when the Liar whispers to you. Stand up and speak truth. I’m here for you girl—and I want to see you thrive, not just survive!
Divorce is painfully hard and extremely messy. Give yourself the gift of healing time to see if you and your husband have staying power! God worked an incredible miracle in my own life and relationship—and I’d love to be witness to what that same supernatural Love can do in yours! Let’s find out, shall we?
Stop feeling stuck. Get clarity. Prioritize your soul-care.
IT’S TIME TO CHOOSE YOU!
*Minimum commitment of two months. Your subscription renews each month until cancelled.
THERAPEUTIC FULL DISCLOSURE: Process and Benefits
Full Disclosure is a carefully guided process where your partner takes the time to be radically honest with himself, God, and his coach or therapist about his sexual history. After you provide information through your coach or guide about the scope and detail of what you want to know, he writes a letter that he will read to you in a safe, structured setting. This letter includes a detailed timeline of his problematic, compulsive, addictive, and/or inappropriate sexual behavior, along with answers to your specific questions. The goal isn’t to overwhelm you with every graphic detail but to foster transparency in order to destroy the power of secrecy and shame and to give your relationship a shot at restoration based on honesty and truth. You deserve and need this in order to thoughtfully consider how to approach your healing path forward. Trying to pull answers when triggered and angry and receiving partial, minimized disclosures only adds to the severity of trauma and length of recovery. This process is designed to protect you from "death by a thousand paper cuts" and honor your right to know the truth when you are ready to hear it.
The process involves:
Preparing emotionally and mentally with your coach
Working on your needs and wants (I have many resources available to my clients)
Creating and maintaining clear boundaries about what you need to know and what behaviors are acceptable in the meantime
Processing feelings and reactions together as they arise
Benefits of Full Disclosure:
Builds a foundation of honesty and accountability
Helps you understand the scope and context of the betrayal
Reduces anxiety fueled by uncertainty or hidden secrets
Empowers you to make informed decisions about your healing and the relationship
Facilitates genuine reconnection based on truth rather than denial
When will you know you’re ready?
You’ll recognize readiness when you feel emotionally stable enough to hear the truth without shutting down or becoming overwhelmed. Signs include reduced shock or numbness from initial discovery, a willingness to face difficult feelings, and having coping tools in place. Your coach will work closely with you to assess and prepare you for this step—never pushing you before you’re ready.
If the betrayal involves compulsive sexual behavior or sex addiction, understanding the underlying issues is key. You or your partner might want to explore this with a trusted assessment tool and his therapist to clarify the nature of the behavior. This is one possible tool, but he should feel free to explore or ask for other options.
Sexual Addiction / Compulsive Sexual Behavior Test
Additional benefits:
Coordination of Care with betraying partner’s therapist or trauma-informed certified coach. This means you get to focus on your healing and growth knowing I am relaying pertinent information to your partner’s disclosure guide/therapist, as well as ensuring your needs, desires, and concerns are being prioritized and advocated for. There is a common misconception that infidelity and sex addiction is a marriage problem… it is not. This is not a co-dependency (or ci-addict) problem, and it is not an indication of a deficiency in you. Your partner’s acting out is a symptom of deep wounds that need individual attention from a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) or Coach. That said, joint therapy sessions are generally unproductive and unsafe for the betrayed partner until there has been at least 4 months of sexual sobriety and remorse, ownership and empathy are present and consistent.
Rite of Truth Advocacy Session and Emotional Impact Letter preparation.
Post-TFD Aftercare including debriefing session, space to rest and regroup on your own, food/beverage of choice. ◡̈
Taking this step opens the door to healing and empowerment with support and clarity. You don’t have to face it alone.